No matter how much you try to justify jealousy (even in cases where you are being cheated on), it’s ALWAYS the lowest sense one can possibly experience. And if you are feeling jealous (no matter what the reason is), you ALWAYS lose self-respect.
When you feel jealous, you usually operate on the incorrect premise (kind of like”wishful thinking”) that someone belongs to you, and you therefore wish to control what they think, what they want and where they need to be. Now try this on: imagine someone wishes to control what you think, what you need and where you need to be. Likewise, you can’t control someone else’s ideas and desires either. And you can never be sure what these are. So instead of attempting to achieve the impossible, leave it alone. It’s a waste of time and energy.
Instead, concentrate on your own feelings and attempt to control them. If you feel jealous, it is usually because you are unsure of yourself. In those minutes, remind yourself of your value. Assert your own personal qualities and practice self-love. This is both enabling and self-respectful.
At this point you’re probably asking”But what if I’m being cheated on?” Well, there is no excuse to feel jealous. Being on the receiving end of infidelity generally brings up your self-esteem difficulties. That’s why you need to work on your confidence. Because if you don’t, you are likely to wind up not only feeling jealous but also tolerating the infidelity (for fear of being abandoned ), thus disrespecting yourself even more. Instead, you should simply escape the connection (assuming infidelity is not in agreement with your personal values). That’s what any confident individual who respects themselves would do.
But that’s not effective and does not help you achieve anything. When someone is cheating on you, do not take it personally. Empower yourself by asserting your own price, refuse to feel jealous, and just escape the relationship. Taking personal responsibility for your emotions and to your actions demonstrates a high degree of self-respect and is the only behavior that can help you achieve a positive outcome.
Remember: If you need a fantastic relationship, you work on the connection. If you want a terrific relationship, you work on yourself!